I’m 21 years old and recently I had to make an important personal decision that would affect my future and would have a huge impact on my life in general. It took me a while, but I made it. I chose to give up and leave behind something that I felt wasn’t for me. I had done it! Finally! After months of thinking about it, weighing the pros and cons, I had made my decision and I was happy about it. I felt liberated, empowered, optimistic, inspired, determined! I felt good, I felt at my best… for a few days. Then I got kind of worried. What if I just tossed my future into the trash? Then I got really worried. What if trying to avoid a mediocre life I’m gonna end up having just that?
Today I came across an article that I will quickly sum up, because it really lifted my spirits. Studies have shown that, apparently, our generation doesn’t see owning an apartment or a car as being successful and that we’d rather invest in experiences – like travelling, for example. We need to work in a peaceful, relaxed environment and we are more productive when there is no pressure on us – “you HAVE TO do this or that” or “that’s how you have to do it because that’s how everybody before you has done it” kind of pressure. We seek balance in all the areas in our lives. We check the morality of a company before applying for or accepting a job and we value trust, ethics, integrity. We prefer a positive organizational culture and a company’s potential to do good, not just make profit, is very important to us. That’s why we are likely to decline tasks than don’t correspond with our personal values. We are defined by freedom, courage, determination to follow our dreams and our gut. We’ve reached a level of consciousness no generation has ever reached before. We don’t think about conflicts of interest anymore, instead we worry about moral ones.
After I read the article I reflected a bit on this. I’m always hearing complaints about how our generation is a generation of oversensitive individuals that victimize themselves too much. We are too soft, we are too whiny, we are lazy, most men today would never be able to fight in a war, girls are racy, we forgot values, we don’t have morals, and so on and so forth. Maybe we are and we do most of those things, but if we look at the bigger picture… there’s nothing really wrong with any of it. We are becoming more aware, understanding more, accepting more, being more tolerant BECAUSE we are sensitive and soft. We know that men shouldn’t have to fight in wars, as there shouldn’t be any wars. Girls should be able to express themselves however they please, because sexuality has nothing to do with intelligence or anything of that matter. Most human qualities and personality traits are not mutually exclusive. We have new morals and modern values. And the only reason why we’re “lazy” (it’s actually a lack of determination, not laziness) is because we still think we HAVE TO do things and to live our lives a certain way.
We are in the process of learning that, in fact, we don’t. We don’t have to follow in our parents’ footsteps. We don’t have to choose a career path solely because society says it’s going to make us rich (and that’s supposed to be a life goal for all of us). We don’t have to do things because we are expected to do them. We don’t have to embrace anyone else’s belief system.
For the longest time I thought I was the only one thinking this way, but that article made me reflect a bit on the people I know, on what they are made of and I realized that I am definitely not alone. It really went straight to my heart, it made me so happy to realize that out generation is breaking the rules, breaking the chains, changing society. I’ve never felt luckier to live in this world at this exact time and age.
So follow your gut! Trust your gut! Trust it because you are part of a great generation, the most honest one so far. We are the generation that fights for authenticity, so take the time to find out who you are, be patient. Don’t lose your hope, don’t let your dreams die and don’t follow your brain, as it tends to lead you to security. Follow your heart, because your heart alone can lead you to happiness. You have one life, live it in such a way that you won’t end up regretting other people’s choices. Try, fail, rise from the ashes after you’ve burned yourself to the ground! Be free and don’t settle for mediocre. Because you fucking sparkle!